The holidays are over. It almost seemed like it was a month long marathon for me this year. Now we are already 1 week into the new year. I'll admit, I don't watch a LOT of TV, but it is definitely something I do for an hour or two every night and all I see on TV and online is how to meet your goals for the new year; especially, the most popular, being more healthy. A show we typically watch that's not "health conscious" at all even had their first episode titled, "Healthy options." My husband was instantly voicing his opinion of why everything on tv is becoming so health conscious. I interjected that it's the new year and that's just what happens every January since I can remember. He laughed and said, "Oh yeah, I get it. Everyone's been binging for the holidays so now they have to go to the other extreme and be super healthy. It'll all be back to normal in a few months."
I have to admit, I fell into this trap myself by sitting down and writing out my goals for the year. This isn't even something I traditionally do in January but felt like it is a good time of "renewal" and an easy time to start doing something I've been thinking about implementing or changing in the past few months. I soon realized I have a LOT of goals. Of course, I justified the amount by doing multiple things to them. First, I grouped them into professional and personal. Then I grouped them into "short-term, easy to implement" and "long-term, hard to implement." After doing this, I kind of laughed because I pretty much realized which goals I would probably not do very well at. I'm sure you could guess... yup, "long-term, hard to implement." In other words, "I'm not really looking forward to implementing these goals but I know it would be good for me."
I had heard it was a good idea to share your goals with people in order to have more accountability. A family member asked
me about my goals for the new year before I even had to bring it up. After rattling off my list, she stated I may have too many and I also need to think about narrowing my focus to what I really want and what I might not be able to acheive. I didn't like this response. I tried to explain my view on goals may differ from hers so I thought I'd share it here and see what you guys think. I believe in setting some fluid goals. It gives me somewhat of a general focus of what I want. As I begin to impliment them I realize what works and what doesn't work and I change them, some even on a weekly basis. Almost as if they are a working hypothesis of what I want Rachael to be. Through trial and error I realize the goal doesn't fit or I'm not quite willing or ready to make that change. Is this a bad way to set goals? Am I selling myself short or underestimating myself? I'll admit, I struggle with feeling like I'm good enough or am incapable of meeting my high expectations I set for myself so maybe I don't want to let myself down so I adjust the goal? Or is this me building my confidence along the way?
Rachael Kool, professional counselor and normal, everyday adult screw up.